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Remember that moment when you were little – you got smacked with a baseball in Little League – you stopped to attend to the pain – your coach yelled at you “Cry later, throw the ball to first base! Suck it up!” We all have this story, whether it was getting kicked in soccer, a…

The pursuit of purity is not about the suppression of lust, but about the reorientation of one’s life to a larger goal. D. Bonhoeffer I think this quote simply outlines a solid way out of porn and sex addiction. There are two options as you try to break free from lust, porn and sexual acting out.

A Solid Man develops strong relationships with other men. He needs other men in his life in order to gain strength, be accountable, deal with his BS and to have fun. Other men are absolutely essential to live a Solid life, there is no other option.

This is a list of the basic needs of most men and most women. My hope is that this would create more conversation. Generally, most women and men would be good to go if the following basic relational needs were met.  Many of the needs on this post would be wanted by both men and…

Most men have been trained to either disregard their emotions or hold them in. We’ve been taught that they are feminine and get in the way of rational thinking or getting the job done. This creates huge problems in the lives of most men. Emotions are a vital part of being human and if you…

There are 7 Solid Core Articles, You just read the first – “Get Started Now” now you know that you have all the tools you need already inside you, you’ll also need a map or blueprint (Which the Solid Core Articles outline), Get some other men to join you, You’ll need to want this (If…

A Solid Man has integrity. Integrity is a defining factor of any man who embodies true masculinity and manhood. Integrity usually is thought of as being honest. This is true, but there is so much more to it.

When asked what is the number one need of men, most would go with this answer – Sex. For whatever reason, that is the word on the street; men’s number one need is sex. I believe this is what people think because of warped and shallow perceptions of manhood and masculinity. As though men only think with their little head or have a one track mind.

Men want to see where we are going, the terrain we will travel and the markers we can expect. A map shows you where you are going, gives you direction and orients you to the main points on your journey.

Emotions have always been a mystery to men.

The messages we get tell us that emotions are weak, irrational and misguided. We are told to ignore them. We are belittled for feeling deeply, for expressing anger or deeper emotions like sadness, insecurity, grief or vulnerability. No matter what, we are screwed.